Updated: Jul 27
First, what’s the difference between a Psychic and a Medium?
All Mediums are Psychics but not all Psychics are Mediums.
In the same way that all surgeons are doctors but not all doctors will become surgeons. A Medium is a specialist, so to speak, like that surgeon. A psychic tunes into the “aura” or “energy field” of the person or object that they’re reading in order to gather information. A Medium can also do this, but a Medium can also tune into the energy field of a person no longer in the physical body. I’m actually able to connect with both “spirits crossed over” and spirits still “Earthbound” or typically called ghosts. In most cases a Medium can usually connect with one or the other only, and usually those who have crossed over. A true Medium may be able to communicate with your friends and loved ones who are crossed over and deliver to you very specific and detailed information about you and your loved ones lives who are now crossed over. Although we can’t be expected to connect to a specific person. We only get those on the other side who want to speak up. How that person was in the physical body is how they are on the other side. So if Aunt Tilly was shy and quiet, but her sister Annie was out spoken. Chances are your Aunt Annie is the one to come through.
How spirits communicate with me...
As a Medium and a Psychic, my strongest “Clair” is Clairaudient which means “Clear-Hearing”. What that means is I can hear them speaking to me in my thoughts, telepathically. I will hear letters and sometimes names, places, objects and other words. My close 2nd Clair is Clairvoyant, which means “Clear-Seeing”. I can see in my mind spirits and the images they show me. I also get very clear pictures of faces and will describe their face, the body type and even the clothes they are wearing. Seeing their clothing can be very helpful as far as the timeline in which they lived. Some spirits will literally speak to me and we’ll have a conversation. I am also very Clairsentient, which means I can sense or feel their emotions. I can also sense their personalities. For example, if they had a great sense of humor, were very serious or stern, depressed etc. There’s another Clair, Clairambient, which means to smell a particular smell that would have been symbolic of them. This has only happened to me a few times.
Every spirit communicates differently.
Some will choose to show me a lot of visual images and symbolism, while others prefer to “speak” to me with thoughts. As different as their personalities were in life, they are in spirit too. Some spirits are very good at communication through this process and some are just learning. It can be as new to them as it may be to you.
Skepticism and Skeptics
I feel it’s important to have a healthy skepticism about the Medium and the process. Unfortunately, as in anything in life, you have very good Mediums with real ability and integrity in their work and you also have some frauds. Then there’s others who may have some ability, but practice without much integrity or compassion. Mediums have varying degrees of ability, skill and experience just as in any other profession.
I’ve heard stories from clients and friends of previous bad experiences. Remember, just because someone may have some psychic abilities doesn’t necessarily mean they are spiritually aware or operating from a place of integrity. There are good cops and bad cops, good doctors and doctors who are only in it for the money. The field of Mediumship is no different than any other profession.
I do not ask you for any personal information, birthdates, photographs or anything else. I don’t want to know anything about the person I am about to read for.
**Animal communicate readings are different. With animals I need the name and a photo and the behavior issue so I can try to pin point the issue quickly. If it’s a connection to a pet that has passed, just a name and what species...dog, cat, bird, etc. is good.
Once you feel that you have found a reputable Medium, it is important to come to the reading with an open mind. If a person has already decided in their mind, that this isn’t real, it can be very difficult to change that belief. This is especially true if the person has some beliefs, religious or scientific, that bring up fear about Mediumship or death. Even if I bring through the most mind blowing and detailed information from loved ones in the spirit, the “closed” or fearful person will try to find any excuse to rationalize the experience, in order to find a way to support their belief. This often is true with people who have a lot of fear or misunderstanding about death, a strong need to be in control, or feel that this process or reality somehow threatens what they have already decided and strongly hold to be the “truth.”
Leave Any Preconceived-Expectations at the Door
If you would like to receive the best reading and experience possible, it’s a good idea to have a few questions ready to begin with or a focus for your reading. For example, you may have current life issues of love, health or work or just to connect with loved ones in the spirit. But once we begin, please allow for Spirit to guide the reading and the process.
A Medium can’t control the spirit world and neither can you. It’s important to remember that the spirit world doesn’t yield to the rules and laws of reason and logic that we live by here on the physical plane. It’s not a rational, logical process. There is a whole set of “Natural-Spiritual Laws” present that govern the spirit world that are very different than the way things operate here with us. We are not in control of this process. I’m only the messenger. Any attempts to try and control or direct the reading, the spirits, or the information that comes through, will only cut off the energy flow, make the reading very difficult or not at all.
It is very important to be “open” to whomever and whatever information comes through. I always trust that what or who comes through is what is most important for the client to hear at that time.
A message that may seem unimportant at the time of the reading will often have major significance in the future. So keep an open mind and hold on to it! Very often some information that comes through during the reading makes no sense to you at that time. But, do not dismiss it as wrong. You’ll do yourself a huge disservice if you do. This is why I provide you with a recording of the reading. This way you can listen to the reading again whenever you need too. You’ll be surprised how often, weeks or more after a reading, a client validates the information from a reading. Spirits can be tricky by bringing forward knowledge that makes no sense. Then later you find out it’s right on point. This provides great validation to you that the whole experience was real and more importantly that I was really connecting with your loved one.
Do some homework afterwards by asking around your family or friends about unknown information in the reading. With the things you cannot validate right away, be patient and keep your mind open. Sooner or later it will make sense.
Will the loved one I want to speak with come through?
In my personal experience as a Medium, sometimes yes, sometimes no. It is important to understand that the spirit world decides who will come through, not you or I. After all, I’m not making a phone call to the spirit world. I can “ask” for a particular loved one to come through and maybe at some point during a session they will. But, only if they choose to.
Sometimes if the spirit died suddenly, tragically or very recently, they may not come through until the end of the reading or not at all. I prefer to wait a few months after a loved on has passed. They are adjusting to the other side and the intensity of emotions when speaking with a loved one in spirit might be a little overwhelming. Remember, they are your friends and family and they come to say hello and offer comfort, support and closure. They DO NOT want to scare you or upset you. If they sense that you are becoming scared or uncomfortable with the process they will often pull back their energy and stop communicating.
Can I ask questions and speak with my loved ones?
Absolutely, Yes! Think of it as though I’m the translator delivering information back and forth between you and them. This is not possible in a group reading, for lack of time…but in a private reading, which is recorded for you, you may ask questions.
Every reading and spirit is unique, and they may give you answers to some of your questions, but please be aware that they may not give you all the answers. Your life is yours to live, experience and learn, and they will not interfere with your personal growth and experience here by telling you what you should be doing or giving you the answers to life. We are here to figure them out for ourselves. They will however, offer their advice or guidance, or alert you to things you may need to be more aware of in your life or future.
Remember, when I “tune in” I never know who will come through. It could be your neighbor from 30 years ago or an old friend from school. Sometimes it’s someone you have not thought about in many years. Why them? Because they can. This is a rare and magical opportunity for both sides, never forget that.
Most often spirits come through to deliver information and/or messages that I do not personally understand. This information may be related to part of your life and makes no sense to me. I don’t need you to give me information, but I may need you to validate what I’m describing or help me understand the nature of the information that I’m receiving. It’s my job to deliver the messages as clearly and accurately as I can to you, and often don’t understand what the message mean, but you will. If not today, then sometime later.
Time on the other side does not follow our time on the physical plane. A family member may come through that you never met while alive. You may not know them but they know who you. If you can’t identify someone who is coming through in your reading at the time of the reading, please don’t dismiss them or think that I’m wrong. Hold on to that information, ask around with your family and do some homework and try to figure out who they are. Sooner or later it will make sense. I love to get emails validating something that came through in a reading weeks or months earlier. Also, it takes time before the reading settles in and you can make sense of everything that has come through. So please be patient.
to be continued....next month